April 22, 2014
“ Success increases your freedom, your income, your happiness, your spirituality; but only if you let it.”
If you are anything like me than at some stage in your time on this earth you have feared success. Don’t deny it. You know that fear of success is the excuse you used to not compete in that competition when you were a teenager. A fear of success is the exact reason you still have your novels first draft sitting in the bottom drawer of your desk.
Well lucky for you I am here to call BS on your fear of success.
What the?! I hear you say? How dare I call BS on your biggest fear?
Yep, I call BS on your fear of success; and you want to know why? Because it isn’t real.
There are many self-help guru’s who detailed a fear of success in their self-help books and have made millions of dollars from feeding into your fear of success. Telling you that it’s only natural and charging you thousands of dollars worth of coaching sessions to help you overcome this fear.
The real and honest truth is that a fear of success is just a disguise for what is really going on in your subconscious. If you can tap into your subconscious and really break it down then you can unlock what is really holding you back and allow yourself to move forward in a positive and constructive way.
How oh how is this possible? Well it is simple really. First you need to lock into your subconscious and really listen to what it is trying to tell you with this fear. Are you actually scared that you might lose your freedom once your business takes off the ground? Are you really scared that you won’t get any publishers willing to publish your book? Are you really scared because you don’t know how to deal with male attention and so aren’t sure you are ready to shed all that weight?
If you are really honest with yourself you will be able to drill down and find the real discord between what you want and why you aren’t letting yourself move forward on it.
One of the best ways to unlock these nuggets of wisdom buried deep below your shallow “fear of success” excuse is to spend ten minutes free-writing. In fact go do that now. I want you to set the alarm on your phone for ten minutes. Open a word document or grab a good old-fashioned pen and paper and start writing. Start with:
I fear succeeding in my goal of … because I am…
Now finish that sentence…I’ll meet you back here in ten.
You’re back? Okay!
Now take a good hard look at what you have written and highlight the key words or themes that have formed on the page. If you group the common themes together and write them out in a list then you have started to unlock what it is you are really afraid of.
Now you can’t get defensive with your subconscious at such a vulnerable time. You have to applaud your ability to uncover these truths. Praise your subconscious for letting you become aware of these personal insights.
The next step is to work towards letting your subconscious mind know that you will never truly allow these fears to come to fruition. Promise yourself that you will never sacrifice your freedom for your business. Promise yourself that your success means having more for your loved ones not leaving them behind. You also need to come up with the relevant affirmation to say to yourself every time you feel that BS fear of success excuse come to press pause on your productivity button. You could even research examples of others who have come before you and reached the goals that you are dreaming of and remind your subconscious that it is possible to reach that success without compromise.
In the comments below I want you to share your results from the 10-minute exercise. Did you find that your Fear of Success is a myth is well? What are the new affirmations you are going to tell yourself to overcome this?